So many are born into this world unloved, unwanted, abandoned, abused, neglected.
Some are lost before their life has begun.
Tiny, innocent, fragile.
But, loved.
I love you.
Although I never knew you or had the chance to see the person you could be.
You were loved.
Know that little one.
In your short time in our lives.
You were most definitely wanted and loved.
Tuesday, 15 March 2011
Thursday, 10 March 2011
Good News!
I just have to say Oh my those babies are adorable! However, I hate that there are 7 little precious and beautiful babies lying unloved and unwanted in lonely hospital rooms! It makes me so sad!! I was saying to a friend today as I cradled 2 little ones, 1 of whom was so stiff from lack of being held, why oh why does this place allow parents to keep their rights for so long? Allows them at any time to come back and claim the child who often they have destroyed with their neglect. Children who develop attachment disorders due to their abandonment, such as the little girl who has been in the hospital for over a year (because her family won't take her until she has her cleft pallet fixed) who rocks herself if you do not engage her full attention. Standing, sitting or lying in her crib she rocks herself back and forth like the adults at the institution who have suffered 20 plus years of institutionalisation. It breaks my heart.
But, JOY! Joy has come with an proposed change to the laws. It is suggested that soon, if a child's parents are unknown and they have been abandoned for 30 days they can be put onto the adoption list. Also it will be suggested that if a child's family has had no contact and shown no interest in taking them back or if reintegration has not been made possible for a year then that child can be put on the adoption list! YES! FINALLY! If this law is passed it should and I hope it does mean that these children will not lie in hospital cribs due to lengthy paper trails and attempting to find their missing families to ask them if they are willing or not to have their children. Go Romania! This is for sure a positive change and I for one applaud it!
But, JOY! Joy has come with an proposed change to the laws. It is suggested that soon, if a child's parents are unknown and they have been abandoned for 30 days they can be put onto the adoption list. Also it will be suggested that if a child's family has had no contact and shown no interest in taking them back or if reintegration has not been made possible for a year then that child can be put on the adoption list! YES! FINALLY! If this law is passed it should and I hope it does mean that these children will not lie in hospital cribs due to lengthy paper trails and attempting to find their missing families to ask them if they are willing or not to have their children. Go Romania! This is for sure a positive change and I for one applaud it!
Wednesday, 9 March 2011
8 Martie
Today was 8 Martie, Woman's day and therefore Mothers Day. Court and I were remembering today how hard it was only 2 years ago when the orphanage was still open and we attended Mother's Day programs where our little orphans sang out with gusto "today is your day mummy" "I love you my beautiful mummy". It was HEARTBREAKING! So, I am glad that we moved on and that nearly all our children have been placed in loving families, meaning that our orphanage has been closed for well over a year and that the majority of those little faces who impacted so heavily on my life now have a mummy to sing out to on this day.
However, my heart still breaks for little Alex still waiting for that family that he will fit like a piece of a jigsaw into. A child who at 6 years old prays at night for God to find him a mummy. A child still singing to a mummy who has not yet appeared. I hope (even though I am not Christian) that our bundle of joy, this beautiful boy will have his prayers answered. He deserves that, as do all children. I feel I could talk and talk about how unjust it is here. How unfair it is anywhere in the world where many children find themselves watching in bewilderment and sadness as others celebrate a thing that should never have been taken from them, their mother's. It is unfair and I won't do it justice so instead I want to say what in mine and my boy's mind makes a mother?
Cristi and I have this discussion often. We had to discuss this again today when he told me what some children at school had said to him today. "Your mummy isn't your real mummy she didn't give birth to you you were born in the orphanage. The orphanage is your mummy!" So, sure he was upset but after we laughed about the fact that a building can't give birth and that in fact the children were maybe just curious and were actually somewhat right we discussed what makes a mummy a 'real mummy'. We settled on this......... a mummy is someone who loves their baby more than anyone else in the whole world. Someone who is there for their baby and takes care of them. That kisses their ouchies and tells them stories and plays and laughs and sings with them.
I looked at my boy and I said "you know what Kiki it is true I didn't give birth to you but I chose you so you are extra special and even more loved". I hate that our kids face such adversity however, I am glad for whatever reason that my life led me here to my little one, if only for the fact that he got to hear today just how wanted and special he really is. I'm glad the days of putting him to bed at the orphanage are over. The many nights I tried and failed to sneak out from his bed when he was asleep only to be grabbed like a cartoon dog and bone. Tonight, my boy fell asleep with a big smile on his face, knowing that he has a mummy who loves him more than anything else in this world. I just wish I knew that Alex had that too.
However, my heart still breaks for little Alex still waiting for that family that he will fit like a piece of a jigsaw into. A child who at 6 years old prays at night for God to find him a mummy. A child still singing to a mummy who has not yet appeared. I hope (even though I am not Christian) that our bundle of joy, this beautiful boy will have his prayers answered. He deserves that, as do all children. I feel I could talk and talk about how unjust it is here. How unfair it is anywhere in the world where many children find themselves watching in bewilderment and sadness as others celebrate a thing that should never have been taken from them, their mother's. It is unfair and I won't do it justice so instead I want to say what in mine and my boy's mind makes a mother?
Cristi and I have this discussion often. We had to discuss this again today when he told me what some children at school had said to him today. "Your mummy isn't your real mummy she didn't give birth to you you were born in the orphanage. The orphanage is your mummy!" So, sure he was upset but after we laughed about the fact that a building can't give birth and that in fact the children were maybe just curious and were actually somewhat right we discussed what makes a mummy a 'real mummy'. We settled on this......... a mummy is someone who loves their baby more than anyone else in the whole world. Someone who is there for their baby and takes care of them. That kisses their ouchies and tells them stories and plays and laughs and sings with them.
I looked at my boy and I said "you know what Kiki it is true I didn't give birth to you but I chose you so you are extra special and even more loved". I hate that our kids face such adversity however, I am glad for whatever reason that my life led me here to my little one, if only for the fact that he got to hear today just how wanted and special he really is. I'm glad the days of putting him to bed at the orphanage are over. The many nights I tried and failed to sneak out from his bed when he was asleep only to be grabbed like a cartoon dog and bone. Tonight, my boy fell asleep with a big smile on his face, knowing that he has a mummy who loves him more than anything else in this world. I just wish I knew that Alex had that too.
Tuesday, 1 March 2011
1 Martie
Happy 1st of March. Here in Romania we like to celebrate the first day of Spring by buying little badges and broches (martisor). 6/7 little stalls all crowd on one corner of the street, brimming with rows of trinkets for sale which we then share with our loved ones and teachers! It's a fun tradition where you find yourself chosing to participate and buy these tacky littel trinkets which you wouldn't look twice at on another street corner on another day. However the look on the kids faces is worth it especially Laz who giggled with delight while showing everyone at least twice the ones that he had received. The day was beautiful the sun was out and the warmth melted the icicles so everywhere dripped and dropped like a Springtime shower. It was lovely - as of course were the amazing martisor's that I received from my boys :)
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| I received 3 this morning a huge garish diamond type 2 heart brooch chosen by Laz and a silver one covered in multicoloured jewels with a broken fastener from Cristi. I opted for Cristi's 'school made' prettier paper option in the morning before moving onto the racier numbers for the afternoon. |
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